Every now and then we are faced with situations that test us as people. They challenge us, make us question our thoughts and beliefs, and for a moment we are lost in the fog. We try to interpret the events that have taken place, but can’t comprehend them. We sit in a loop of: What happened? Why did it happen? What did I do?
In recent months, I have had many vile things said to me. Many of which have caught me off guard, and left me dumbfounded. What did I do to deserve such treatment? What steps can I take to make sure this doesn’t happen again? These are a few of the questions that play in my mind like a broken record.
We live in a world that teaches us to focus on our personal growth and somewhere along the way we’ve developed a habit of taking our loved ones for granted. We forget that they hold value in the things said to them, and in the heat of the moment say things that can never be taken back. In that moment, the dynamic of your relationship is forever changed.
The question then becomes, how do you move on? How can you forgive? How can you forget? Should you forgive or forget? A wise person once told me that forgiveness is good for your soul. Forgiveness affords you the opportunity to continue to grow throughout the course of life, and prevents you from creating roadblocks for yourself. Forgiving someone in your soul, is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.
It’s important to remember that you can’t control the actions of those around you, and that you are equipped with a superpower that helps you grow and be happy in your life. You have the power to control your own words and actions and it is extremely important for us to focus on what we can control. We waste our lives away trying to rationalize the behaviors of others. Instead, we should use our energy to focus on what we can control and growing ourselves.
Food for thought…